{"id":244,"date":"2008-10-06T01:35:25","date_gmt":"2008-10-06T01:35:25","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/amperzen.com\/blog\/?p=244"},"modified":"2008-10-06T01:35:25","modified_gmt":"2008-10-06T01:35:25","slug":"how-you-talk-sets-up-expectations","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/amperzen.com\/blog\/how-you-talk-sets-up-expectations\/","title":{"rendered":"How you talk sets up expectations&#8230;"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Someone pointed me to this <a href=\"http:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=SCNIBV87wV4\" target=\"_blank\">youtube<\/a> video.  I loved what Taylor Mali was talking about and it got me thinking.  First watch the video then read my thoughts.<\/p>\n<p><object classid=\"clsid:d27cdb6e-ae6d-11cf-96b8-444553540000\" width=\"425\" height=\"344\" codebase=\"http:\/\/download.macromedia.com\/pub\/shockwave\/cabs\/flash\/swflash.cab#version=6,0,40,0\"><param name=\"src\" value=\"http:\/\/www.youtube.com\/v\/SCNIBV87wV4&amp;hl=en&amp;fs=1\" \/><\/object><\/p>\n<p>Back in the dark ages, I was very active in women&#8217;s rights issues.  I also taught courses in Assertiveness Training.  One of the key issues that always had to be dealt with was how women talked.  When you listen careful, there are still a lot of women that end every sentence with a slight uprising inflection that turns a statement into a question.  It&#8217;s as if they&#8217;re asking permission to have that opinion.  Women who expected to have a chance at breaking through the glass ceiling had to train themselves to actually make declarative sentences without the rising inflection that seemed so natural to them.<\/p>\n<p>Things have changed a lot since then; there&#8217;s still often a glass ceiling, but it&#8217;s usually also invisible. PC or political correctness has made as all afraid to speak our minds.  There is, however, a very big difference between talking down to someone, insulting someone, and expressing an opinion.  Lately, expressing an opinion different from the person you are speaking with has somehow become <em>wrong<\/em>.  I truly don&#8217;t understand that view of things and it often gets me into trouble but then I, unlike some others I could name, am a maverick.<\/p>\n<p>It is our duty to express our opinions.  It&#8217;s our right to let people know when we disagree with them, provided &#8212; and this is a big exception &#8212; we do it with respect and courtesy.  That&#8217;s not difficult to do, but you do need to be sensitive to the other person and remember they <em>don&#8217;t<\/em> have to believe or think the same way you do.  Guess what? People can disagree with each other and still be friends, colleagues, or co-workers.  Most of the problems today stem from the fact that we&#8217;re so busy trying to be just like everyone else, trying hard to not stand out, and that means that none of us are happy.<\/p>\n<p>Personally, I think a lot of this has to do with how we talk to each other.  Speak clearly, concisely, with respect, courtesy, and with authority.<\/p>\n<p>So what do you think about how you talk? Do you question authority? Do you speak with conviction?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Someone pointed me to this youtube video. I loved what Taylor Mali was talking about and it got me thinking. First watch the video then read my thoughts. Back in the dark ages, I was very active in women&#8217;s rights issues. 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