Act your age….and that is???

Age doesn't matter book coverFor me, thinking can be a pretty exciting trip through my brain which tends to be filled with lots of bit and pieces of fluff I’ve collected over the years. Today, I was doing something — can’t remember what just now, probably thinking about eating a breakfast cupcake (I had cereal instead) — but as clear as clear could be I heard mom telling me to act my age. So, I got to thinking…how do you act your age?

It seems to me that if I’m my age and I’m doing something then I’m acting my age. All my life I’ve had people say either to me or about themselves — I/You can’t do that at your age. Why? If you can do it, why not? I’ve got long hair — or had, it’s growing out again from a donation to Locks of Love — but family members (female) keep telling me that at my age I should have short hair because long hair on a person my age looks silly. Why? If it’s clean and neat and I like it what’s silly about having the length of hair I feel comfortable with.

Personally, I just don’t get this thing about having to curtail activities you like because of some magic age that after or before which you’re not allowed to do this thing. Okay, I get not drinking before you’re of age and not driving before you get your license — those are laws and reasonable ones set up so that reasonable behavior can be expected. But there aren’t any laws that say after age 45 you must have short hair if you are a woman, or no white after Labor Day, or no motorcycle riding after 50, and so on. Who makes up this stuff?

I do know that I can’t do a lot of things I used to do simply because my body isn’t up to it any more. Climbing steep trails is a lot harder than it used to be (arthritis in my knees) but if I take it easy and don’t push I can usually make it to the view at the top. But, the thing is, I pretty much know my limits and I take appropriate (I think) precautions . Same with a lot of other activities — I like a lot of music that I’m told I should not like at my age — again I like it so obviously people my age do like it, or at least some do. I try to not pass judgments on others and expect the same courtesy in return.

But, the real question is where do these rules come from? Who made them up? Did the North Wind forget to blow this knowledge into my ear at the appropriate time. Is there a list? Not that I intend to follow the advice/rules, but it would be interesting to see how many of those shoulds that I’m ignoring at my age.

Potential — some thoughts

Gattaca Special Edition DVD coverYesterday, I got an ad for the Gattaca (Special Edition) DVD. I watched the trailers and spots and got to thinking about the movie and what it says about potential. Originally released on DVD in 1998, the film is about genetic engineering and its effects on society. Once people can have their children engineered to be what they want them to be, very few parents opt to have God children. God children are simply children who have not been engineered and are a random mix of the parent’s DNA. Vincent, a God child, has a dream and does all in his power to achieve his goals in a society that sees him as a lesser human. His younger brother has been engineered and is a police officer. Once, as children, Vincent and his brother had a competition/race — the result has haunted Vincent’s brother. Why? Because, Vincent won. There’s a lot more to the plot of the movie but what I want to discuss is the underlying theme of potential and capacity for growth.

Earlier, my husband and I got to talking about the big fish in a small pond phenomena for students and how it effects their college years. For example, in high school I got decent grade by just going to class and listening to the teacher. I read a lot outside of school and skimmed the textbooks and did the homework (sometimes without actually reading the books). In other words, I never learned how to study because I never had to. Then came college. All the students were smart. I had to read all the assignments, sometimes more than once to understand them because the lectures built on the readings rather than, as they did in high school, simply hit the high/important points of the readings. So, I had to learn to study. First semester was a disaster as I scrambled to keep up, with no clue how to study, outline, highlight material, pick out the important points of a lecture. I was totally lost because I was beyond my native intelligence to where I really had to push to reach my potential.

Now, in Gattaca, everyone is genetically engineered for abilities. There are no interviews for a job, they take a blood sample and see what you are capable of. So, why push yourself to go beyond what you can comfortably do? Why struggle to be more when your DNA has already given you everything and you can’t be more than that anyway.

The key to the movie is someone who pushes to grasp a dream. Someone who knows what they want and is willing to push themselves to the limit to get that dream. There is no magic bullet that can make people better, they have to strive to be better every day. You have to reach beyond yourself and push yourself to achieve. Expecting that you will have, or get, anything you want simple because of who you are or what you are — that is the first step towards a stagnant society. Right now we have a lot of people who feel they deserve things (the thing changes with the person) but they don’t want to work for it because they feel it’s owed. I’m not talking about Equal Rights, that’s just leveling the playing field and erasing the barriers, you still have to work to get the job or whatever. I’m talking about those who feel they are owed just because they exist. I’m sure we all know people who feel they are owned respect, not because they have earned it, but because they are better dressed, richer, more educated, whatever than someone else. On the other hand, there are people who are given respect from others because they just do what they do to the best of their ability while respecting others. Sort of a Golden Rule result.

Everyone has potential. Yes, disabilities can limit the range of opportunities, but there is still potential. On the other hand, there are groups, laws, etc. that limit potential. For example, people on welfare are often not allowed to own cars or can only own a car worth less than a certain amount of money (a clunker lucky to move at all). Therefore, while forcing them off welfare and to find work, they are artificially limited in where they can look and what they can do for work. There are always problems trying to live up to your potential — money, physical defects, environment, education, and location. But usually, there are ways to achieve your dreams against the odds even then.

However, there is little support for those on the lower end of the economic scale to achieve their potential. I have to wonder why. Right now higher education is out of reach for many from middle income to poverty level. Students from poor families are just as likely (and often more likely) to be motivated to succeed in education — yet their potential is limited by income. There’s something wrong with a country that has no real mechanism for those with lower incomes to attend colleges while high income students don’t even have to actually make the grades if daddy can endow a chair or building.

So, maybe it’s money more than DNA that determines potential. It’s a thought anyway.

Another sock nearly done

Purple stripe socksIn between all the other things I’ve been doing lately, I’ve been working on these socks. I turned the heel last night. I was going to knit plain until one inch from top but just switched to 2×2 ribbing since I want to make them a bit higher and I hope the ribbing will help them stay up.

But, alas I’m not a one project kind of person so I have a pair of traveler socks in the bedroom that I’ve done the top pattern and just started the second pattern. The pattern is by Nancy Bush in her book, Knitting on the Road. I’ve made a couple of pair of socks from this books and I just love the simple clear directions.

I’ve also finished the body of my sweater I was working on. Now I just have to pick up for the sleeves and knit down to the wrist. No finishing required since it’s top down and I used an i-cord for the bottom. Hopefully, that one will show up here in the blog with a week or two. Depends on my knitting time. I’ve about finished the follow up to all the zines going live — now it’s gearing up for the 1st of April — and that means lots of reading time. I found one of my book holders and I bought a weighted bookmark so I’m going to try reading and knitting (at least the plain knitting).

I’ve spun up a bobbin of wool/angora mix that I bought a few years ago. I’m not caring for the color as much as I did when I bought it but it spins up nice. I’m hoping to get a cardigan from it when I’m done. It’s sort of scratchy so I’m thinking outer garment not next to the skin.

Lots of plan. Little time. But full of joy at the thought that soon spring will be here.

A Jane Austen — Interlude-ish thingy

Jane Austen: The Complete Novels bookcoverToday, we did our weekly shopping. Normally, we do the shopping on Saturday so we can hit the the recycle center along the way (you can’t recycle on Sunday around here — big chained gates forbid it). Anyway, shopping means the warehouse grocery store, the regular grocery store, Home Depot or Lowe’s (depending on what the house needs now), and any other errands. But we usually end the day with a stop at Border’s for coffee (me) and hot chocolate (hubby). Sometimes we get a book or two. You’d think since I review books and have huge stacks waiting to be read that I wouldn’t pick up any more. What can I say? Hi, my name is Gayle and I’m a bookaholic (but I have no intention of kicking my habit).

I’ve been on a big Jane Austen kick lately. Partly, because PBS is running The Complete Jane Austen series on Masterpiece Theater. However, they are taking a break so my Sunday nights from 9pm to 11pm are now open until March 23 when Emma will be showing. What to do…what to do? Naturally, I need my Jane Austen fix. It’s been Jane Austen on Sunday nights for weeks now.

I’ve been eyeing Jane Austen: The Complete Novels (Introduction by Karen Joy Fowler) for a while now. So…today…I bought it. It contains: Sense and Sensibility, Pride and Prejudice, Mansfield Park, Emma, Northanger Abbey, Persuasion, and Lady Susan. The Introduction by Karen Joy Fowler is 7 pages long and I’ve only read the first 3 so far. As expected from Fowler, it’s witty, thoughtful, erudite, funny, and thought provoking and I’ve still got 4 pages to go. I expect that I’ll be posting reviews of the books as I read them or reread them as the case may be.

Bionic Arm — good science

Dean Kamen & bionic armToday the staff of SFRevu, TechRevu, and Gumshoe Review got together for our monthly meeting. Along with catching up on each other and kibitzing about possible changes to our sites and discussion of ways to make our zines better for our readers, we take some time to get to know each other better and to have some fun. So, we have a meeting followed by food, whatever movie that got the highest vote, and then share our best website of the month. Well, one person’s best website was TED: Ideas worth Spreading.

I’d been to the site before to listen and watch a talk or two. If you haven’t been there and you enjoy learning about new things or getting a hit to the side of the head to jump you out of your regular thought processes — it’s a great site with some thoughtfully presented ideas. The talk we listened to was by Dean Kamen about how he came to work on the bionic arm. Normally, I’d embed the video but this one is long and I thought it would be better if you went to the site — besides, you’re probably going to want to poke around over there anyway and bookmark it for later visits.

If you’ve been reading my site regularly, you’ll know that I’ve had a couple of rants about how technology in the US has been falling behind. Well, Dean Kamen has raised my hopes. This arm was done in 13 months from the start of the project. Evidently, with a committed and eager group working on a project they believe in — work can be done and done well. This is now up for funding from what I’ve read elsewhere and I’m hoping it gets more funding for trials and then some fine tuning. This is so much better for people missing an arm or even two arms than a stick with a hook or a plastic and wood approximation of an arm but without movement.

Evidently, the spirit to invent when matched with the right task and the right people shows that we can still do some pretty amazing things. I just hope this gets down to the people who actually needs these arms.

New desktop background …

Someplace to be flyingCouldn’t sleep last night so I finally got sick of tossing and turning and got up, turned on the laptop and got some work done. So today, after a short nap, I was able to catch up on a lot of things that I hadn’t got to yet. One of which was the image you see here. Tor is giving away free ebooks and I signed up to get a notice. Well, they also have two desktop images along with the book. The others have been pretty impressive but I’ve always loved the work of John Jude Palencar. Last year, I did an interview with him for SFRevu.

This image was for the cover of Charles de Lint’s Someplace To Be Flying. Charles de Lint is an author that I also enjoy and the two together, words and cover, make a wonder pairing. Now I’m going to have this wonderful artwork as my desktop background for a while. Already I find it soothing in a weird sort of way. Maybe it’s the colors, composition, or the subtle symbology. Anyway, thought I’d share.

March — coffee cup

March Celtic coffee cupI’d almost forgotten it was March and time to move to a new cup. I was so enjoying the February roses and love cup. This month, I’m using (starting today — this first week has been overwhelming) a cup I picked up at the Maryland Renaissance Faire last fall. I fell in love at first sight when I saw it in the Shore Fire Pottery booth. Shore Fire Pottery is owned and operated by Dan & Rhonda Heinecke. I wanted to ad a link to them but couldn’t find a website. (If anyone knows of one let me know and I’ll add it in). They do wonderful work and it’s really different. A lot of it is organic, meaning there are impressions of leaves and flowers in the pottery along with other elements. They also have the usual dragon and fairy pottery — but it’s this mug (the only one in the booth) that called out to me.

If you happen to be in Maryland during festival season, you should stop by and check out their pottery as well as the festival (which starts August 23, 2008).

Review: Mr. Darcy Presents His Bride by Helen Halstead

Mr. Darcy Presents His Bride book cover

Mr. Darcy Presents His Bride takes place in the autumn of 1813 just after Elizabeth and Darcy get engaged and slightly before the wedding. Placing the beginning at this point helps to bridge the reader from Jane Austen’s Pride and Prejudice to Halstead’s continuation of the story of literature’s best known and loved lovers.

It is not uncommon for a reader who has enjoyed a well told tale with fascinating characters to wonder as they finish the final page, “What happens next?” Perhaps, that is also the reason that series books do so well–because readers want to revisit and catch up with characters that they enjoy. The problem is that every reader has their own set of ideas about how the characters go on with their lives once the story ends. So a writer who opts to continue the tale of two characters that are so widely read about must keep the characters not only true to the ideals, morals, wit, and character that they were imbued by Jane Austen as well as tell a new story that is in concert with the original.

Pride and Prejudice is one of my favorite books and I’ve read it many times. I also often re-view the DVDs of the various movies made from the book. However, when I read a continuation of the story, I try to remember that I’m reading the authors interpretation of these characters. Still, when reading the story, I need to be able to identify those characteristics and traits that made the original characters so wonderful to read about. In this, Halstead admirably succeeds. She manages to continue the tale in a way that is consistent with the original story as it progressed while moving forward with her vision of what would happen in their lives.

We know from Pride and Prejudice that Lady Catherine de Bourgh was not happy with the match and that she’d do all in her power to see that Darcy’s wife was cut from society and the family. We also know that in a time when there was little for women except marriage, that the other Bennet sisters must find husbands, that Georgiana Darcy should probably have a coming out and season in London, that there would be children born to the couples, and that eventually the Bingleys would not be able to tolerate being so near to Mrs. Bennet. We also know that Austen left notes that indicated that Kitty would marry a clergyman–almost unbelievable in the face of Kitty’s dislike of the breed. So, Halstead had these threads upon which to embroider her tale of the married life of Elizabeth and Fitzwilliam Darcy.

While everything comes together in a delightful tale of married life and its ups and down as well as the tribulations and joys of family–it’s not quite the tale that I would have told. But setting aside my own prejudices regarding the Darcys, Mr. Darcy Presents His Bride is a wonderful addition to those brave authors who lay before us their version of happily ever after for this famous literary pair. Whether Halstead manages to also touch your vision of their future, her rendition is well executed, the story springs from those themes that were generated in Pride and Prejudice, and the characters stay true to their roots. Elizabeth remains witty, charming, feisty and yet maintaining a wonderful awareness of society and her place in it. Darcy is proud but tempered with the love of Elizabeth and now making an effort to put others at ease but, when rattled, reverting to his old manners. All the other characters are as they always were but with new insights or manners that give the reader the same character but with more depth and emotion.

A must for all lovers of the original who wonder, “What happens next?”